Toddlers are continuously frustrated because they can’t quite articulate what they want. This leads to very testing times for us parent’s and hence it’s super important to learn how to manage these tantrums without letting them ‘rule the roost’. As tempting as it may be to reach for that bottle of wine, it’s really just going to mean that you have even less patience when they do misbehave.
These are some of the tip’s that worked for me and my toddler Indie:
- Give your toddler attention in positive ways which will in turn provide them with a sense of belonging. Read the signals. For example, I found that when Indie started to whine I was best to give her immediate attention. If I was busy doing something then I would find a way to include her, alternatively I’d read one of her favourite books or play a game like hide and seek.
- Allow your toddler to make some decisions which will give them a sense of significance. For example let them choose what clothes they would like to wear or ask them if they would like to brush their teeth before or after getting changed into PJ’s.
- Try to remain calm and rational. The less upset and frustrated you get as a parent, the quicker the meltdown will pass. This is because the more emotion you portray, the more likely it is that they will think it’s a game and want to continue.
- Master the art of distraction. When I saw a temper tantrum brewing I’d become really engrossed in a nearby object or toy and wait for Indie to come over to see what I was doing.
Finally, possibly one of the best tips I received was that consistency is key. If your punishment is to send them to the naughty corner, then make sure you do so every time they misbehave. And remember – there really is light at the end of the tunnel!